I'm a restless at heart. I have the best intentions to relax and enjoy life, but also really have a hard time with relaxing. I always have. According to my mom, I kicked naps from an early age (because I "didn't want to miss anything") and to this day I feel guilty when I do manage a nap. I am a "Type A" do-er. Most days I do my best to accomplish something. I'm never far away from trying something new or achieving a goal. That's why my husband are always striving after something. It's a constant in our lives, sometimes to his detriment.
But that is not necessarily a problem...
The real issue is that I am so scattered, tired, and stressed because I feel that I always want to accomplish not just something, but everything. I rarely have the time nor the energy to do so.
I want to:
- Spend quality time with my family and friends. Duh.
- Exercise - this is a BIG one for me. Running and also yoga and lifting classes are my current go-to's. I'm also considering training for my third half marathon. I haven't done one since before babies, so I'm hoping to carve some time out for that.
- Have a meaningful "something" that I do that's just mine. Whether it's a career outside the home, working from home, writing, or creating something. Something that I enjoy and that I can do in light of my family life. Is that too much to ask, people?
- Be home with my kiddos part-time and provide them with meaningful activities (and lots of love!)
- Have a clean(ish) house. It's for my mental health. I'm much less anxious without the clutter. I still do have a messy house sometimes, but at least I have a robot vacuum...
- Provide healthy, clean meals for my family. My toddler, though, would be happy and content eating anything but the cage-free, hormone-free chicken nuggets that I make. He'd rather do Tyson dinosaur chicken nuggets. Ugh..
- Time to read. I used to be a bookworm, but then kids.
- SLEEP. Lately, I'm obsessed with my nightly zzz's. I used to function on anywhere from 5.5 to 6.5 hours a night, but now I need at least 7 to not be a crab the next day. Lovely.
- Adventures - I want to see the world or go to new places with the family. The kiddos' nap times are currently cramping my style so planning day trips can be tough. Now ever single outing is a "field trip," not an adventure.
I know that there's more. What's the problem? Well, I'm impatient on top of it all. When I said that I want to accomplish things, let me be clear. I want to accomplish ALL. THE. THINGS. And I can't do them well then I have a pity party for myself and suddenly the thing that I wanted to accomplish isn't so appealing anymore.
Right now I'm trying to pare down my list of important to-do's while going through a period of refocusing. I read a book recently called the "The One Thing," during my real estate agent training. Though it is written by a self-made, well-respected and successful Realtor, (Gary Keller, co-founder of Keller Williams), the principles in the book can apply to any situation. Numerous companies are adopting his principles and hold conferences to educate their employees on the importance of this singularity of focus. The gist of the book? It's basic. Focus on your "One Thing" every single day, get rid of distractions by learning to say "no" to everything else, and you will find success.
Cool. I can do that. At least I think that I can... There are so many amazing strategies in his book about time-blocking, remembering your focus, and repeating affirmations to yourself. He talks about how in real estate, lead generation is the bread and butter of your business and if you focus on it every single day above the rest of your to-do's, you will have a thriving business! Seriously, it's amazing stuff. If you are in business or are just trying to accomplish some goals, I highly recommend this book. There are numerous strategies for attaining your goal from forming healthy habits to accountability and support.
Why do I bring this up? I have many things that I want to do and that I enjoy doing (don't we all?). I have many ideas of where I want to be in life and in a career, but I'm just completely at a loss of where to start. I've been praying that my restless and hard-working spirit would be put to good use, instead of making me feel like I should always be doing more...more more more. God has given me some days of peace, but I am hoping for constant serenity during this time of waiting.
In the waiting though...I can plan. I plan to keep my plans with an open hand and hope that the Lord directs my path clearly. I plan to do small things while refine my purpose as a woman, wife, and mother. I am more than just a mother, I'm more than just a wife. I'm a child of God, I'm a person who still has hopes, dreams and an identity all her own. I may have to repeat this to myself several times over, but that's ok. I'm a work in progress.
On my desk, currently, and things I've been dreaming about...
My view today...
No matter where you are in life, remember that it's OK to dream and to find your purpose. These are important and will fuel your day-to-day activities. Whether you're in a job that you don't like, working too much, or staying at home with your kiddos, do something this month, this week, and today that moves toward that dream. We all have them and dreaming is not a bad thing. You will be a more balanced person and your family and friends will be positively affected by this. We all have something unique to contribute to the world.
You're worth it, I'm worth it. We all are.
How have you stepped towards your dreams recently? Do you ever struggle with feeling like you shouldn't do that One Thing for yourself? Share in the comments or send me a message.